Is fear ruining your life?

Is fear ruining your life?

Is fear ruining your life?

Everything you want is on the other side of Fear

 “We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light” Plato

Is fear ruining your life?

One of the ways to overcome your fear is to ask yourself, what am I afraid of ? Think about it.

You probably heard the saying FEAR means “False Evidence Appearing Real”. There are all kinds and forms of false evidence with an appearance of reality, there are the fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being alone, fear of love, fear of not being good enough… fear of change… What most people do not realize is that fear is inevitable for success, and if you do not find ways within you to overcome it you will not grow and then you die.

When fear starts ruining your life and creates the limitations for you to live the life you deserve for you and your family then it is time to move through it with faith because before you know it, you will be missing out on great experiences and opportunities that could make you evolve and be happy.

A young woman, whom I was coaching on self-confidence and self-perception, asked me how can I become fearless and stay motivated to reach my goal?  To help her create that internal drive for her to stay focused without relying on external factors, I invited her to ponder on about the price of not following it through.

YES, let me tell you that you have to be more afraid of what you will be missing out instead. There is no way around. If you cannot get rid of fear, then use it. Instead of focusing on what you are afraid of and let it cripple you, think about the cost of not having what you want. Imagine how would your life look like if you stay as you are and do not change anything?  What would be the cost of not creating more freedom to your life, to your family and children? And believe me these thoughts and that kind of fear will get you over your other fears and will push you through to take necessary actions.

Another way to move through your fears is to imagine yourself at 80 years old, looking back to your life and saying to yourself, I wish I did that or I wish I had more courage… I wish I had another chance. Life is passing by my friend; it is time to do the first step.

Here are three things to get you going:

–          Get clear why anything you want is a must for you, move from the desire situation to a must situation.  It has to be something that you feel hungry for or you will not be inspired.

–          Create different rituals that you incorporate daily to put yourself in a peak state because when you are in a peak state, you are physically stronger, you are more focused and have more energy.

–          Believe that you have a real potential to create the results you need, if you do not believe that about yourself, then you will not be driven enough. Little belief equals little action, which leads to little result. Tap on your potential to be able to take massive actions, feel stronger and get the momentum you need.

Every successful endeavor is preceded by a form of fear, take a leap of faith and feel the fear but do it anyway. Fear could be your greatest motivator if you manage it properly. You do not have to hit rock bottom to start taking actions, start now, as with progress your fear will diminish.

Hurdles and challenges are part of any journey. However, a strong desire, faith, persistence can help you remain focused on your vision, while adopting an attitude of gratitude to support you put everything in perspective. Choose to be a woman with purpose and decide to turn your vocation into a vacation

If I could give you an advice, it would be to follow your dream.  If you love what you do, you will succeed. We are all gifted and unique. Find your gift, share it with the world and make it shine.

Love and gratitude

Linda Chaccour

 

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About the Author
Linda Chaccour is a passionate Life Strategist and Happiness Coach, a Certified Youth, Parent and Family Coach, and the founder of Emerge Coaching in UAE and in Lebanon. A graduate of the NeuroLeadership Group, the World Coach Institute, and the Robbins-Madanes Training school (RMT), Linda has had the honor of being trained by the International Coach Federation and the motivational guru and success coach, Anthony Robbins.